Tuesday, 30 April 2013


I've always wondered what is so bad about breakups? Why make such a big deal out of it? Not that I haven't had my fair share of breakups. Oh I have had them and they were painful but what is it that weighs us down and makes every morning bleak and despondent?

A 'Breakup' is a word for when two people are no longer compatible with one another. People change and this happens. But,breakups bring about a change in our lives - parting with someone so close: someone who has known and who we have known so intimately and that is what really makes them painful. So, we mourn. Just like we would mourn a physical loss, we mourn the loss of an emotional relationship. We fight the emptiness the departure creates and I have done it too.

It is only the 'after' breakup that makes the breakups a big deal. A while ago, just after my breakup, a fellow friend told me that she had heard that the only reason my boyfriend and I had broken up was because "He didn't want to anymore." Now, my ex...anyway, we had already talked about 'why' we were parting ways and that was definitely NOT the reason he gave me. [P.S. I was unwilling to part but his concerns were genuine.] You must be all thinking - "So what? Don't believe her? What does she know?" I did too...for the first few days. Slowly, the depression started sinking in, the insecurities surfaced. What if this really was the reason? He didn't want to. The bitterness had been created.

Little rumours; little truths; little insecurities play a huge part in making what is a perfectly normal separation, a   painful and bitter "breakup". There's not a single day that goes by when I don't think about him and it hurts. The wound, the emptiness, the hole...they hurt. "George Bernard Shaw once wrote: 'There are two tragedies in life. One is to lose your hearts desire, the other is to gain it.'...Clearly Shaw had his heart broken once or know what? Tragedies happen. What are you gonna do? Give up? Quit? No. I realise now that when your heart breaks you gotta fight like hell to make sure you're still alive. Because you are and that pain you feel, that's life. And the confusion and fear, that's there to remind you that somewhere out there is something better and that something is worth fighting for."

Till then, that's it. #feelbetter #keepreading

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Monday, 29 April 2013

ReviewThisWeek: IRON MAN 3 [spoiler]

Hi guys!
Okay so I am a HUGE Robert Downey Jr fan and subsequently an Iron Man fan, the third installment of which released only last week! I was really excited but also, a tad bit apprehensive specially since, there was a giant furor on its release. Usually, sequels create massive anticipation but never live up to the standards. On the contrary Iron Man 3 was absolutely fantastic!

There was a genuine story! This is a huge problem with movies nowadays - the lack of a good script. The film had a really good plot which was  maintained till the end and wasn't abandoned half way through the film. Furthermore, there was enough action AKA boom pow phew for the people looking forward to good action sequences. What was absolutely brilliant here was the twist in the story with the Mandarin only being the face of the villainous side. On the contrary, he was only a goofy, drug-addicted theater artist [Played by Ben Kingsley]. It provided a hilarious new aspect to the film. Some people might have felt that a few things seemed slightly inconceivable but, what was kept in mind during the production of the film was that this was post-Avengers, which means post-two gods and an army of aliens, movie.

The acting was absolutely fantastic and what a treat to see Gwynth Paltrow in a deeper role, especially in an action sequence which is hard to come by for female actors. It was nice to see the actual relationship between Pepper Potts and Tony Stark, a superhero. The fact that Pepper was not a trophy wife or girlfriend, a recurring theme in most superhero films, was a fresh and more respectable perspective.

In contrast, I did feel that the 3D feature was quite unnecessary and I could have enjoyed the film equally without the uncomfortable dark-tinted glasses nonetheless, it did not pull away from the film in anyway. In my opinion, the most spectacular scene was the entry of the #42 Iron Man suits as an Iron Man army in themselves. The technological advancements and especially, J.A.R.V.I.S found new respect from me.

With all the guaranteed witty dialogues, due to the presence of RDJ, and a fantastically relatable aspect, I will  give Iron Man 3 - 5/5 stars 

Anyway, I will be reviewing any book/movie/song/tv show once a week so feel free to suggest anything that you might want me to review. Till next time....#YouKnowWhoIAm #keep flying

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Baby, don't go : Best Friends Forever

Does it really exist anymore? Best friends...forever? I don't be a pessimist but I really haven't seen two friends keep together long enough for it to even remotely be forever. No one. I suppose its because our concept of 'best friends' is faulty. And because we think things never change. As Peyton [One Tree Hill] says: People Always Leave. Its because we can't accept who've they've changed into. Change isn't necessarily bad just different; its just evolution. Plus, no matter how stagnant you consider change. Every year; Every month; Every day; Every hour; Every minute you evolve into someone different. Not always completely just a little. 

Now, back to our concept of 'best friends'...

Ask yourself truly...WHO is a best friend? It would of course be best that you don't base your answer on the memes and photos circulate on the internet. They basically make it important for you best friend to be crazy like you making witty jokes and punching other people for you, which too an extent may be true. However, I feel that a best friend is a friend who listens. I think we all lack that one friend that truly LISTENS. Not just about boys and clothes but about your greatest fears and strengths, your dreams and your weaknesses, your expectations and your reality. 

It doesn't mean that you best friend has to give you some revolutionary advice that no one else had given because contrary to popular belief, being a best friend doesn't make a person a genius in matters of the world that eluded them previously. Nor does it have the same effect on you. But if you jut stood there and listened without becoming distracted or turning the topic to yourself....if you've genuinely listened, you're my best friend. I don't want to expect much because its wrong to expect things from others. We form all these expectations and when they don't occur in reality, we get upset. However, if we're not mind readers, every body has different ideas so how do we expect anyone to actually fulfill our desires.

My suggestion, hold your friend close, till you squeeze them of air but never judge them for change, because change is inevitable. Till then #keep reading. #lotsalove #keeprollin'

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#yolo, really?

I resignedly sighed back home after a tiring and laborious day and then, collapsed into my bed. I should be exhausted, I had an exam to give yet I feel not only mentally exhausted, but also, physically and emotionally. Why? I was in love and I saw him today. Yes, I always receive collective look of pity every time I say that but no matter how hard we try and how strenuously we side step the deep, painful chasms of love - we always slip. 

Damn! - I know. My question is - why do we make it so hard for ourselves? Why are there all these rules and dos and don'ts and right and wrongs? Why? If I like someone, I will attend to him, no matter, what my situation is. I'll take out time to listen. Is it really necessary to wait at least seven  minutes to reply to a text? Or to not look out for him out in the crowd and behave nonchalantly about us. Why on earth?

The internet, at this moment is flooded with 4,260,000 posts on #yolo, if I am to believe Google. I, myself, have a board on pinterest tagged #yoloo. It is, ofcourse, a hashtag that stands for the inspirational "You live only once" which has been incessantly criticised by several but, I find myself agreeing with. Isn't that how we have been advised to live, right? To live like everyday is your last? So, why doesn't this apply to love? 

We, humans, prance around the entire world, risking our lives as we do crazy things yet we think a thousand times and ask every single friend and then surf the net and spend hours contemplating to ourselves when we just have to say 'I Love You'. Just say it. It might hurt when its not reciprocated but at least it will hurt less than spending all your energy keeping it within yourself and losing that one person that you feel strongly for. I am as guilty as everyone else of playing mind games but, it's now or never. Life is meant to be lived and even for the risk of appearing needy, just do what you need to. 'Cause what seems to you may not seem to another.

So that's it for now. Hope you liked it. #Yolo

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Do people even read?

I almost feel like I'm conforming to the norms of society as I type out my first blog post. Why? All my friends have blogs! Okay maybe not all but a majority of them and I feel no different yet here I am typing out my question for the day - Do people even read? I continue to type out this in hope that some of you who surf the internet, actually take time out to read what we write on these blogs. I only hope. I mean, I sure don't read blogs except those of my nagging friends but in my defense, my room is overwhelmed with books.

With the invention on pinterest, instagram, facebook, tumblr & twitter, I feel that people prefer to upload pictures rather than write or read. And slowly, our patience to sit and follow the lines of an unchanging book is rapidly decreasing. Which brings me to my next dilemma. So, the other day, after much contemplation, I decided that I wish to be a travel journalist and promptly announced it to my mother. While, watching Travel and Living on television, she pointed out the advertisement of a fairly new show in which the contestants are required to travel and click pictures to win the contest, and asked me whether I was going to become a photographing journalist and it is at that moment that I realised the biggest, most humongous and glaring flaw in my future plans - who reads travel?

If I wished to travel somewhere I would not search for articles relating to it but pictures of my desired destination. Moreover, more popularly, the shows on television that have beautiful women traveling to exotic locations are more attractive ways of finding out about your dream destinations. So who reads at all?

I do feel slightly old and out dated as I reflect on the kind of hobbies I keep. I am in a process of advancing myself but if you have any views at all, do share with me so that I have somewhere to start.

That's all folks! #keep reading

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